Johnathon Robert Paul Sweeney-Dewey

Here's My Story

My Name is Christine Dewey but back in 2007 I was Christine Sweeney I have since married.
On Friday, November 16th 2007, I had a my normal 4 week check up at my doctors office and Dr Au did everything to find my boys heartbeat but with no luck,,he told me not to worry as my heartbeat could have over powered the babies...So we decided I should go to my ultrasound on the Monday the 19th as planned....All weekend long I did whatever I could to keep my mind of the fact that my baby could be dead.....
On the Monday the day of the ultrasound I woke up feeling that everything was fine....So my boyfriend (now husband) went to work and I did my normal dailey routine with my 2 other children....Sometime that afternoon I had my ultrasound and my mom her boyfriend at the time and my 2 other kids walked over to the hospital and I was still in high hopes there...
I was called in and was told that no one could come in with me...The tech did everything she was suppose to do and when she got to the heart she looked at me with a worried look on her face...She worked hard to find a heartbeat before asking me if I wanted my mom now,,,right there I knew something was wrong but kept thinking the baby was fine....The tech returned with another tech and he to tried to find my babies heartbeat and with no luck....I still remember the words he said as he turned to me and said " I am so sorry we cant find your babies heartbeat,,,your baby as passed" Those words ached through my body,,Had I had a ultrasound in the beginning of my pregnancy Johnathon could be here today...Pregnancy Dating is more accurate during the first half of the pregnancy... Measurement of the sac at
five to seven weeks gives an accuracy of plus or minus ten days.Measuring the crown-rump length gives an accuracy of plus or minus three days at seven weeks this test can be used from the seventh to the
fourteenth week.....Between fourteen and twenty-six weeks, the measurement of the biparietal diameter of the baby's head, the femur length,and the head and abdominal circumference is used; the accuracy is plus or minus seven to ten days....Since I was according to hospital recocrds 18 weeks 6 days into my pregnancy at the time of my ultrasound there was no way that my due date could have been correct....Since I had problems with my second pregnancy I should have had ultrasounds in the first couple of weeks of my pregnancy to ensure everything was going smoothly....The problems I had with my second pregnancy was a bivascular umbilical cord and with that pregnancy I also had low iron so with the complcations I was having they should have done early ultrasounds..If it had not been for my family doctor ordering for the ultrasound i would never have known my son had passed....
I became numb and started to cry uncontrolable and held my mom...I wanted a ultrasound photo of my baby and my mom flagged down the tech and she kindly printed the best one she could find for me....I got myself together and went out to the waiting room as my moms then boyfriend was out there with my 2 older childern...
.I got them ready to go home the best I could and I started to cry again , so my moms boyfriend let me cry on his shoulder as my mom got the kids dressed better then I had...I looked at my mom and said I wanted my boyfriend (now husband) home from work and the hospital allowed her to call from there.....Her boyfriend went to get him and my mom made all the phone calls that had to be made,,,family friends and my doctors office....I was booked to have to have my families Christmas Pictures the next day so we had to cancelle them....
My doctors office told my mom to take me in that afternoon and we were the last of the actually my doctor came from home as the office was already closed and the first thing he did was give me a hug and said he was so sorry and that he never thought that this would happen...He gave me something to clam my nervs and told me that I had to go to the OBGYN (Tim Froats) the next day.....
.I did not sleep that night all I could do was hold my stomach and cry....I went to the OB's office and they actually treated me like I was a normal pregnant woman....Pee in a cup and so on..I refused and said " MY BABY IS DEAD ITS NOT LIKE I A CARRYING A ALIVE BABY"...They took me to a room and I was giving two options....One was to go home and let the baby pass on its own but with 2 kids at home and a boyfriend that worked I said no to that option....The second option was to go to the hospital and give birth to the baby...I choose that and I was booked for 8 am on the 21st of November......Dr Tim Froats wrote my family doctor a letter Dated November 27 2007 stating that I Denies any drug or alcohol abuse...I dont even drink alchol and I have never taken any drugs in my life and for him to say I was using but denying it is wrong of him to do....Dr Froats also has the dates wrong...My son was born November 21st 2007 not November 28th 2007..This is one of the lines in that letter he wrote "She will be therefore admitted to the hospital tomorrow for termination of the Pregnancy" All hospital records stat November 21st 2007 and not Novemebr 28th 2007
I was up all night the night before thinking of my baby and when I finially fell asleep I had maybe a hours sleep before I had to get up and head out to the hospital to give birth.....Once I got to the hospital they put me in the same room that I had with my daughter and became to induce labour....About 7 1/2 hours into labour I gave birth to my baby boy.....He was so small and had ten toes and ten fingers....
I was asked if I wanted to see him and I was so drianed and tried that I choose not to but stated later on...According to nurses notes Dr Froats was notifed by phone of Johnathon's birth at 4:00 so he has no right to state how my son was born since he was not in the room or even in the hospital the time at the time of his birth...After my son was born my OBGYN (Dr Tim Froats) tried to rip out my after birth with his bare hands after me yelling at him to stop that it hurt and he kept going....It took my mother (Nancy Burns) and my husband (William Dewey) to get him to stop.. The last thing I remember was going for a D & C after my mother yelled at him to stop because she heard me yelling from down on the 1st floor of the Brockville General Hospital.....Now I have had none stop problems since then..My monthly is not right and I am going through menopause and I am only 28 years old...
It was the biggest mistake of my life not to see him.....I never knew what happened to my son after I gave birth to him the hospital would not take picture's or would not let me see him even thou while visiting a friend (Erin Murphy) I stated I had wanted because the drugs had wore off......The hospital gave me a bear so I would not leave with empty arms....
For a whole year I never knew where he was or what happened to him,,So just before Christmas last year (2008) I finally got his Pathology report and it was from CHEO (Children's Hospital Of Eastern Ontario) just after the new year I contacted them and sure enough my son was still there being used as a lab rat....
They say I was 18 weeks 6 days when Johnathon was born but he was the size of a 15-16 week Gestational baby but I was actually 20 weeks along with him so permission is a must and they never had it period I ever gave them written permission or verbal permission to have my son removed from the Brockville General Hospital to CHEO and if I had giving written permission then it would have been with my hospital records and if I had given verbal permission that to would have to be in the hospital records and there is nothing stating that I gave permission to have him shipped away not even in the Nurses Notes..In the Nurses notes it states that Johnathon was placed in formalin and taken to the lab tech for placement in histolopy labs..I have emails from CHEO that states Dr Tim Froats sent my son to CHEO for tests and I was never ever told where he was until I contacted them myself . Everytime I called the office to find out where he was Dr Froats refused to tell me where he was and he told the nurse to say "He is in a place where you cant see"..... Once I knew he was in CHEO I reguested for him to be returned so I could finally get some closure and I had to wait 2 days before I was told he would be returned to Brockville General Hospital..
The following Monday I got another email from them stating that my son was shipped that day to were I live and he never arrived until Wednesday a 2 hour drive took 2 days...So I had to plan a service for my son that I should have had a year ago.....His service was on Monday January 19th 2009.....All the pain I had back then as came all back..The numbness the feeling alone and wanting to cry its all back......Then I get my reports from Dr Tim Froats that I Aborted my dead baby..Sorry but when does giving birth to my dead son become Abortion......
As stated before they said I was 18 weeks 6 days into my pregnancy but I was 20 weeks along...I had my monthly the first month of my pregnancy and my Due Date was April 8th 2008...So that would make me 20 weeks with Johnathon not 18 weeks 6 days....My last period date was July 12th 2007 and He was born on November 21st 2007 the timelime would make me 5 months pregnant....Once I got his Pathology report I noticed that Johnathon was 53 grams and thats expected for a 15 week gestational baby, he measured 10.5 cm from head to bum and thats expected for a 16 week gestional baby, he also measured 14 cm from head to toe which is expected for a 16 week gestational baby but the report also states that Johnathon passing was greater then 1 week but less then 2 weeks so its only human mature that a body that has been passed for 1 1/2 would lose weight...Everyone knows that different babies grow at different rates and that all measurements are subject to inacccuracy because the object being measured is not linear... Just because my baby was the wieght of at 15-16 week gestational baby does not mean that he was that age in weeks....
Dr Tim Froats stated in my hospital records that I had a Imcomplete Abortion, Missed Abortion and a Spontaneous Abortion but a baby born in the second trimester its called a preterm birth not a abortion...Since I gave birth to my son in the second trimester of my pregnancy he would be classifed as a preterm birth....Since I was 20 weeks into my Pregnancy Johnathon should have been classified as a preterm birth and a stillbirth....When a fetus dies while in the womb on or about the 20-24 weeks into the pregnancy its termed a "Stillbirth"..the precise gestational age definition varies by country....Premature births or stillbirths are not considered miscarriages but however, usage of the terms and causes of these events may overlap..A preterm birth is a baby born before the 37th week of pregnancy and very preterm birth is any baby born under 32nd week of pregnancy since my son was born at 20 weeks of pregnancy that would make him a Very Preterm Birth not a miscarriage or Abortion...
In Johnathon's Pathology Report they state that Johnathon was an "Unidentifiable Sex" upon arriving at CHEO but in Dr Froats reports he states that I spontandeously aborted a " Small Male Fetus"...How can 2 reports state two different things...If Johnathon was of an Unidentifiable sex when he got to CHEO how was Dr Froats able to know what sex Johnathon was if he had not been more then 14 weeks 4 days in size has he put it...Its totally impossible to know a sex of a child at that gestational age...The sex of a fetus is determined after 4 months into pregnancy so if Dr Froats was able to tell the sex of the fetus my son would have had to be somewhere between 16-18 weeks in gestational size to know the sex of him....
I believe that Froats is relaible for my medical problems now and that the hospital is relaible for heading over my son to CHEO without asking me first....I have pain and suffering from this and trying to get answer's to my questions and just to be turned away is something I will not go for....They need to re think things before writting things done on paper...Christine Kouri Patient/Family Representative.at CHEO has admitted that there was no written consent or verbal consent giving to the hospital by me and have stated that they usually "get rid" of the fetus within 3-6 months after arriving there in case any other questions arise..But when she asked how come Johnathon was still there they could not not ask answer her,,,,She has been very helpful and she was the one that told me it was Dr Froats that sent Johnathon to CHEO....As I said ealier whenever I asked Dr Froats what happened to Johnathon and where he went I was never ever told and being his mother I had every right to know...This will by no means bring my son back but this will help me be at ease with the loss and all the mix ups with my dates and gestational age of my son....Not knowning what happened to him and then being told I aborted my dead son when I was induced into labour and gave birth to my son is hurtful and should not be allowed to be said without making sure all the dates are correct first...I had my period with my older children....With my oldest son I had it for the first month of Pregnancy and with my Daughter I had my period for 3 months of my pregnancy so its possible that my dates are all mixed up and Froats should have known that since he was the doctor that I had with my daughter..My mother had her period while pregnant with me and so did my grandmother so like I said before the hospitals or dr's write stuff down on paper they should make sure all dates are correct..Because my son would have been 20 weeks gestation and just because he was small in size and length dont mean that my son was not a 20 week gestation..

My sons service was on Monday January 19th @ 2 pm

this is the poem I read at my sons service

Remembering
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Go ahead and mention my child,
The one that died, you know..
Dont worry about hurting me further..
The depth of my pain doesn't show

Dont worry about making me cry
I'm already crying inside....
Help me heal by releasing
The tears that I try to hide....

I'm hurt when you
just keep silent pretending he didn't exist....
I'd rather, you mention my child
Knowing that he has been missed....

You asked me how
I was doing and
I say "pretty good" or "fine"
But healing is something on going
I feel it will last a lifetime


Here is the list of songs that played at his service

♥ ♥ ♥ JOHNATHON'S SERVICE CD SONGS ♥ ♥ ♥
1. ANGELS AMONG US - ALABAMA
2. SLIPPED AWAY - AVRIL LAVIGNE
3. SHOW ME THE MEANING OF BEING LONELY - BACKSTREET BOYS
4. TEARS IN HEAVEN - ERIC CLAPTION
5. SOMEONE'S WATCHING OVER ME - HILARY DUFF
6. MY NAME - GEORGE CANYON
7. ONE SWEET DAY - MARIAH CAREY & BOYZ 2 MEN
8. A PICTURE OF ME WITHOUT YOU - LORRIE MORGAN
9. ANGEL OF MINE - MONICA
10. I WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU - DOLLY PARTON
11. TOUGH LITTLE BOYS - GARY ALLEN
12. I MISS YOU ALITTLE - JOHN MICHEAL MONTGOMERY
13. I'LL BE MISSING YOU - PUFF DADDY (AKA P. DIDDY)
14. WHAT HURTS THE MOST - RASCAL FLATTS
15. ANGEL - SARAH M
16. HOLES IN THE FLOOR OF HEAVEN - STEVE WARNIER
17. HOW DO I LIVE - TRISHA YEARWOOD